Comments on: 311: Getting Unstuck From Self-Sabotage With Erin Pheil of MindFix https://wellnessmama.com/podcast/311/ Simple Answers for Healthier Families Tue, 18 Feb 2020 00:33:37 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.3 By: julie https://wellnessmama.com/podcast/311/comment-page-1/#comment-414304 Tue, 18 Feb 2020 00:33:37 +0000 https://wellnessmama24.wpenginepowered.com/?post_type=podcast&p=422998#comment-414304 Hi Katie,
I am a long-time podcast listener and just had to comment. During this podcast, you and Erin were talking about the one single thing that could change the expression of how kids feel about themselves and how parents can actively help or hurt their kids in the long run. The example was a stressful phone call for mom, the child wants to show the art piece he has just created and she shhhhhh’s the child away.
I took a class a long time ago, when my kids were little. This is one of the greatest things my husband and I took away from the class.
In a time before the child is in need of your attention, spend some time practicing this action.
When they need to talk to you, to show you something or just need you, have them put their hand in yours and give it a squeeze to let you know they need you. No words…just the little squeeze. You squeeze back, acknowledging that
1. I heard you and understand that you need me 2. I am currently giving all of my attention to x, y, z, and I will finish in a moment. I will then give you all of my attention when I am finished talking to x, y, z…..3. It teaches them so much…that they are important, but so is the person with whom I am currently speaking. I know you need me, and I will be there for you too. It also teaches patience and starts to teach empathy. My son is now 20 years old and just did this to me the other day! I didn’t get it…he laughed…and said, “I need to talk to you mom.”

.I hope this is helpful! Thanks for the great podcast.

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